In the midst of challenging moments in our marriages, it’s all too easy to fixate on what our husbands are doing—or not doing. Many of us yearn for a sense of balance in our relationships, don’t we? If I’m being held accountable for my actions, shouldn’t my husband be held accountable too? It can feel unjust. It’s not fair that I have to change. It’s not fair that I have to forgive. It’s not fair that I have to take the high road.
But here’s the reality: Life isn’t about fairness; it’s about growth. We’re called to cultivate our character and become the best versions of ourselves. We have a responsibility to contribute positively to our marriages and be sources of encouragement for our husbands. Ultimately, we are called to be the change we want to see in our relationships.
Consider me your mentor today. Just as a theater director reminds actors to focus on their specific roles, I encourage you to concentrate on your own responsibilities within your marriage. In a production, an actor can’t step into a lead role if they’re meant to be in a supporting role. The entire performance relies on each cast member fulfilling their part, allowing the story to unfold seamlessly. When you stray from your assigned role, you risk disrupting the harmony of the entire show.
PLAY YOUR ROLE!
Shift your focus away from your husband’s actions. Let him navigate his own journey and trust that he will learn and grow in his own time. Instead, concentrate on your role in the marriage. Take the time to understand what it truly means to be a good wife, and commit to that vision. Regularly check in with your Ultimate Guide—your values and principles—to discover how you can best support your husband.
Ask yourself: Do you need to step up and offer more support, taking the initiative to strengthen the bond? Are there boundaries you need to set to ensure that negative influences don’t disrupt your marriage? Do you need to engage in open conversations to foster better communication? Or perhaps it’s time to give your husband some space?
It’s time to fully embrace your role. Place your husband’s growth in God’s hands. Trust that he will reflect on his actions and words without your interference. Don’t attempt to control his journey; instead, focus on being the best wife you can be.
In the end, a thriving marriage is about mutual growth and understanding. By playing your role thoughtfully, you’ll not only uplift yourself but also create a more supportive environment for your husband. So take a deep breath, shift your focus, and embrace the beautiful journey of personal growth within your marriage. Remember, it’s not about fairness; it’s about fostering a loving partnership where both of you can flourish.
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